Body Positivity

Hello! BeckyJo here. As a gym owner, I wrestle on a daily basis with topics concerning body image and body positivity and marketing and all the stuff that goes along with that.

My vision — my primary goal — is to help YOU be healthy for a lifetime. Without health, everything suffers: relationships, finances, quality of life… everything.

As we establish good health, my secondary goal is help you feel confident, sexy, badass, empowered, and totally and completely fabulous.

And so I am LOVING this article I just read on about being “body positive.”

Here’s an excerpt*:

“It’s far too easy to hide a feature about yourself that you don’t feel at peace with. Out of sight, out of mind, right? That’s why I keep tucking my belly into high-waisted pants and skirts. I can hide it for now, present in a way that feels the safest, and deal with my insecurities about it at a later date. That’s why I covered up parts of my body when I had sex, too. Or why I try to hide my teeth as much as possible, especially in photographs.

But when we keep hiding parts of ourselves in such a way, we fail to live our lives to the fullest. We forget our worth, and this forgetting can leak into our personal relationships and professional lives, coloring our world with discomfort and hesitation. In our efforts to stop hiding, we should give these parts of ourselves the visibility they deserve by ceasing to make concealing ourselves a priority in dressing, spending more time with our nude bodies, and taking a ton of selfies.

There is arguably no greater medicine for body negativity than a little TLC. Here and there, I do a little body pos self care through encouraging words said in the mirror, time spent in the bath with my nude body, or the occasional selfie sesh.”

Yes yes yes yes!!! There is so much truth to this. Many of our newest members at SODO CrossFit and World’s Best Boot Camp have goals that include gaining the confidence to wear form-fitting or barely-there clothing. I love that goal! I love that we even have the desire to feel sexy. That’s step one!

Another long-time SODO CrossFit member commented on a Facebook post with a similar concept: “… maybe we should stand nude in front of the mirror every morning and say some good stuff to ourselves.”

And let’s not forget about one of the most confident women on the planet, the lovely Kim Kardashian, who has no problem being nude OR taking selfies. And is completely unashamed of herself for doing so!

I recently made a video talking about how I want you to feel comfortable undressing in front of people — whether it’s an intimate moment, or it’s at your kid’s friend’s pool party. (Watch it here: “If you are someone who CRINGES…”)

I made that video because I spent a lifetime hating my body. My mom bought me book after book about body confidence and loving yourself. Nothing changed my mind…. until I was about 28.

Disney World with my dad in high school... was NOT confident in my skin.

Disney World with my dad in high school… was NOT confident in my skin.

At 28 I had been married for about four years to my man who loved me — not just loved, but adored me — completely and unconditionally from the top of my head to the tips of my toes. And no, I am NOT advocating that it will take another human being to give you confidence. My husband happens to be a big part of my story, so I don’t want to leave him out. We had a lot of talks early on about my hatred of my body, and he helped me see myself in a different way.

And then, already on my journey toward loving my body, I found CrossFit. I love, love, love CrossFit. Or “functional training” or whatever else you want to call it. At first, I was worried about getting “bulky”… bet you’ve heard (or thought!) that before. I was worried that my pants were getting tight around my thighs and butt. I thought getting fit was supposed to make my clothes looser! WTF?!?

BUT, I loved what I was doing. I loved the way I felt. I loved that I literally got better at the sport every single time I went to the gym, and eventually something clicked. All of a sudden, I loved my body. Every fucking inch of it. I loved my body for allowing me to do a pull-up. I loved my body for allowing me to back squat more and more weight week after week. I loved my body for allowing me to beat my husband in workouts. ;)

Me setting a new PR in the barbell clean, weighing about 140lbs... more than I've ever weighed in my life! And damn proud of every pound!

Me setting a new PR in the barbell clean! I weigh about 140lbs… more than I’ve ever weighed in my life. And damn proud of every pound!

And THAT, my friends, is the gift that I SO badly want to give you. I want you to love your body. And let me be real — I have a bit of a muffin top… I have cellulite… I’ve got some booty stretch marks. I’m not talking about perfection here. (If that was my goal, I’d be doing plastic surgery and making WAY more money!!) I am talking about total and complete self-acceptance. Giving zero shits what anyone else thinks and loving what you see when you stand naked in front of the mirror.

*Read full Bustle article here.

2 Responses

  1. Jaylee says:

    U go girl!

  2. Scott says:

    Awesome blog!

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